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Marry ME, Sam!

By Kari Ann Rinker
Advocacy | September 20, 2011

WICHITA, Kan. - Governor Brownback wants all of the single Kansas moms to say, "I do," especially those on any kind of government assistance. He's even offering to pay for some coercion (I mean "counseling") to get all those single ladies in the mood for matrimony.

Heck, he'll even pay for the marriage license. How sweet of a deal is that? "We'll just put this ring on your finger little lady, sign on the dotted line and now you have become some other chump's responsibility." Welfare mom problem solved!

Governor Brownback, the women of Kansas have a proposal for you!

We, the women of Kansas, take you, Sam to be our wedded governor. To have and to scold for the next 4 years, for better or worse. It won't get worse, will it?

For richer, for poorer - and we're bound to get poorer under your policies.

In sickness and in health - you do have insurance right?

To love and to cherish from this day forward until the next election do us part!

And we, the women of Kansas, do solemnly swear to speak out against your chosen policies that demean, degrade and demoralize women into submissive members of your radically repressive state.

With this ring we thee wed!

Just contribute $5.00 to Kansas NOW and we promise to make it official. Kansas NOW will personally deliver a token ring pop signifying your commitment to stand up against this administration's misogynistic policies.

We will deliver these tokens of our love for equality to Governor Brownback's office at the Kansas Capitol in Topeka, along with the message that women don't want forced marriage; they want jobs, child care, housing assistance and access to health care, including affordable birth control and abortion.

You can purchase your ring pop for $5.00 at:

The Kansas NOW Website...

Or send a check to:

Kansas NOW
PO Box 1860
Wichita, KS 67201

Don't delay! Send Sam some Bling today!


14 Comments

Thanks, Kari Ann. Brownback needs to be called out as frequently as possible--early and often.


You know Kari, I was actually agreeing with you until you started asking for money. I was hoping you would offer a counter proposal but no, just a plea for donations.


A very cleverly worded proposal, Kari.

Brad, she was asking for support for NOW. That does not take away from the cleverly worded proposal.


Ken, yes she was seeking donations for NOW. Which from what I can see was her whole point for submitting the article. Ken, what if everytime you submitted an artile you ended with a plea for donations? How would it make you look?

Kari, a better article would have been along the lines of why you dont like the govenors proposal and you state your reasons and counter proposals. Instead we get why you hate the idea and to deal with it, send your organisation money. BTW Kari, of this $5, you say will go to pay for a "token ring pop". What IS that, how much is that worth, and how much will go to NOW's treasury?


Brad, it's unlikely that Ms. Rinker will answer your questions since you have posed them in such a confrontational way. If you had done your homework on Kansas NOW, you would have a much better idea of what Kansas NOW does.

It is a very active grassroots organization that emphasizes public policy accountability, public education and advocacy for human rights and civil rights. Kansas NOW also has on staff a part-time lobbyist at the state capitol who fights for legislation that promotes human and civil rights.

Our writers are welcome to do fund-raising for not-for-profit organizations here, provided that they categorize their submissions as "advocacy" pieces, which Ms. Rinker did.

Brad, you may wish to visit NOW's website here:

Kansas NOW website


BRad, the issue is a person can flap their jaws and just blow a lot of hot air....OR raise money to defeat this politician (and bring public awareness) during the next election.


BRad, the issue is a person can flap their jaws and just blow a lot of hot air....OR raise money to defeat this politician (and bring public awareness) during the next election.


Brad- this delayed response is because I have been busy promoting, organizing and yes...fundraising for Kansas NOW. If I did not fund raise for the organization it would seek to exist and I would be resigned to just responding to comments on blog posts, which is less effective IMO. As far as the reasoning behind the promotion...WATCH THE VIDEO. It includes an extensive discussion of this issue. I wrote it to correspond with the campaign as a fun way to bring awareness.


The fundraiser was fun. I think I missed the most fun part--darn that Dr. Who--but I enjoyed the conversation and Michelle's music. You do a great job, Kari Ann, and I'm happy you have your priorities straight. I say we need to put our money where our mouths are. I'm happy to help Kansas-NOW raise money.


Kari, its not that I'm disagree with what your article says or that I'm against you raising money for your employer, it's just how you hooked the two together.

Really you could have had 2 articles. One, on why your against the governors proposal and two, discussing your group and why one should send them money. Instead you put them together which brings me to wonder are you saying your against the proposal for personal reasons or are you just using it as a fundraiser? Then you say "Just contribute $5.00 to Kansas NOW and we promise to make it official. Kansas NOW will personally deliver a token ring pop signifying your commitment to stand up against this administration's misogynistic policies."

Well your saying give us 5 bucks which will pay for this "token ring". Then Ks NOW will show up on the governors doorstep with this huge bag of toy rings, dump them at his feet, and oh wow, he will be compelled to vote your way.

Are you serious? Do you really think these toy rings will make the governor change his mind?

PS. Just getting fathers to pay child support would solve many of the problems you discuss. There are getting to be fewer jobs out there that pay enough to support a family on so one needs a second income source. I'm not even sure BC would be that much help considering most of the single mothers I know had planned pregnancies.

Finally you'll have to forgive me for my callous attitudes towards requests for money. I guess years ago I grew very tired of the way different groups would do their fundraising. Not only would that group keep hitting me up for more money but they would put me on this list and I'd get flooded with requests for donations. Often they were of the same type where they would use some headline or some issue as a "wake up call" to ask for money. Thats why I dropped the NRA.



Brad--I know where you're coming from on the issue of the never-ending requests for money. A friend and I discussed the frustrations over constant fundraising last night, in fact. I donate only to local groups because I know how the money is used. I never send money to national groups because I'm pretty sure a lot of that money goes to pay for adminstration.

Years ago, I volunteered for Episcopal Social Services and I know my small donation pays for several meals for the homeless in Wichita. I also know that when I donate to Kansas-NOW that money will go to pay a lobbyist who will support my views in the state leglislature. I give a little money to political candidates, but none to the state party because I have no control over where that money goes.

The father of my children paid less than $1,000 in child support during the years when the kids were growing up. He was making good money during that time. He told me he "didn't have the use of the kids," so he didn't want to pay for them. He was bad news all the way around and I had a job, two jobs at one time, so I didn't give it much thought. Then when he wanted to reconnect with the kids after they grew up, one of them said he had to pay the back child support first. I had nothing to do with that request, but I did get a hefty check in the mail and I shared the money with the kids. I agree that if men and women paid the child support they owed, we would have less need overall. But I don't see that happening in the near future.

I think we all know that Brownback's mind won't be changed, but sometimes the action gets publicity that makes people see the ridiculous nature of the policy he's promoting.


Diane, We are totally on the same page on donations. I'm disgusted when I find out the presidents and vice presidents of charities earn 6 figure salaries. I'd prefer things like my kids school or my church and even at my church I'm careful who I give money to. The only "big" group I like is Childrens Mercy Hospitals which the Kansas City community rallies around because all the good they do.

BTW, on a sidepoint when you compare Girl Scout cookie sales to Boy and Cub Scout fundraisers like popcorn sales, you'd be amazed at how the girls are getting ripped off by their national organization by getting so little of the money back compared to the boys.


If it makes you feel any better, Brad. I can assure you no one from Kansas NOW makes six figures. :-)


What I find most interesting about this post is that the issue in the article is not the issue in the comments.

I've always enjoyed when this site has a robust debate. Frankly, I don't like emails or articles that push an agenda and then ask for money, but they are necessary. If people didn't ask for money, they would never get any. I have a blog where I talk about whatever I think. It turns out that no one really cares that much, but if I comment here and other places; if I post it on as many sites as possible I get more attention. The real issue isn't the appeal for money. You will give if you support the organization. The real issue should be the view of the person or group. This is where the comments went astray T

the Obama campaign sends me emails almost daily asking for money. I give what I can because I want the President to be re-elected. We should focus on Gov. Brownback's agenda. In this case, Kari is right. Encouraging or coercing single mothers to get married will not help at all. It will only add to the problem we already have with marriages that are unhealthy for everyone involved.

Kari, great post. I really enjoyed the video. Everybody being in wedding dresses was brilliant.


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